Sex can (and ought to be!) one of life’s great pleasures, as many of you chaps will know! Done right, sex has the potential to boost your mood, teach you about your and your partner’s emotions and sensitivities, and create mutual respect.
But even if you’ve been having sex for many years, and maybe played the Casanova between the sheets, there is always still something to learn about sex, and today we’re busting a few common myths that exist out there in the ether.
Without further ado, let’s take a look at a few of them!
#1 ‘Guys don’t need to worry about contraception, because it’s the woman’s responsibility ‘
No, no and no again! The choice to have sex should only EVER be a mutual one, which means the effort to use contraception should also be mutual.
There is no harm in being prepared chaps – carrying a condom in your wallet is actually a sign that you’re a responsible bloke in between the sheets, and what’s more, even if your female partner is on the pill, this won’t stop you catching an STI!
#2 ‘I don’t need an STI test because I don’t really sleep around’
Even if you’re not a serial shagger, you’re still not immune to catching an STI – it only takes a single encounter without protection to risk catching something, whether through oral, vaginal or anal sex.
Remember (and I know I moan on about this a lot in my blog instalments), it’s not always possible to tell if someone has an STI – they might not even realise they have one themselves.
#3 ‘Pulling out before I come will stop my sexual partner from getting pregnant
Whilst research has shown that pulling out can bring the chances of your partner getting pregnant down to as little as 4%, it’s not at all advisable chaps.
Only done seamlessly can pulling out be a means of stopping those tadpoles from reaching those eggs, and when we’re in the throes of passion, it’s unlikely many of us have that level of self-control!
#4 ‘What I see in porn, is basically the same as real sex’
This one is super important chaps. Not only is this not true, but this kind of mentality can lead to really negative sexual experiences, for both you and your partner. It’s essential to remember that porn is made up of paid actors who (for the most part) are putting on a show for viewers.
Porn is designed for fantastical purposes, which means it’s not a true representation of what it really means to have sex with a real person, away from a camera. Expectation vs reality lads – they’re two very different things!
#5 ‘Condoms take away the fun in sex’
It’s an age-old excuse that’s been used since the inception of condoms – ‘oh they take the fun out of it so I won’t use one.
Don’t be one of these guys chaps! Condoms come in all shapes and sizes and in 2021, there’s never been more choice! Try out a few different types to find a fit that works for you – just don’t use comfort as an excuse not to wear one, or you could end up living with the consequences!